Spelunking

During orientation week of my first year of medical school, one of the deans spoke to us about the rigors we would face. He used the typical analogies – this is a marathon, not a sprint – to encourage us to find our own balance and make time for things like exercise and visits with family. But sometimes, he warned us, sometimes, we would need to "go into the cave and get it done."

I went into the cave in July. After finishing out third year with my surgery rotation, celebrating Tay’s and my first wedding anniversary, using my vacation week to move to a new apartment, and absorbing the news of my dad’s prostate cancer diagnosis, I had three weeks to prepare for Step 2 of the United States Medical Licensing Exam, a 9-hour, 352-question multiple-choice extravaganza of clinical knowledge and reasoning on which a passing score is required for graduation and which score can have a sizable impact on one’s residency prospects. So, after the first week of study, I packed my bags and took myself to Vermont.

Possibly more harrowing than preparing for the test was the prospect of living in near-total solitude for fifteen days. It’s quiet up there in the summertime. Other than going out for runs and walks and the occasional foray to the grocery store, I wouldn’t be interacting with anyone. It’s funny how, back in the days of bad roommates, I couldn’t wait to live on my own, was bursting at the seams to establish my own domain. Now I’ve lived with Tay for four years. I wasn’t sure how I would do with so much time and space for my wandering thoughts.

Fast-forward to the day the scores were released and Tay, knowing I would put off looking at my score for weeks if given the chance, took charge and looked at it (just like last year) and you will know that I learned a good bit of medicine up there. But I also learned a number of things about myself that feel somehow both arbitrary and important to know:

-I can change my own tire, though I might need a little help loosening the lugnuts. Apparently I paid attention to my dad’s lesson that day in the driveway more than ten years ago.

-I’m still kind of afraid of the dark, or at least of going to bed knowing I’m alone in the building. (Yes, even in Vermont.) I never thought I’d be so comforted to hear what I’m pretty sure was drunken Czech floating over from two balconies away.

-I have no idea if I’m allergic to bee stings, and suddenly this hole in my knowledge grew to seem incredibly egregious as I considered the potential consequences should I happen to be stung by a bee and happen to in fact be allergic and happen to feel my throat closing with no one nearby to call 911 or give me an emergency tracheostomy…. Witness the limitless creativity that results when I off-load my test anxiety onto every aspect of normal life.

-I might consider getting a [small, subtle, classic and classily-placed] tattoo, assuming I can decide on a design that I will love for the rest of my life and get over my fears of getting Hep C.

-Finally, the lesson with actual ramifications: Writing will always soothe me. It will always inspire joy. Even when I’m alone in my cave of concentration and solitude, balancing the desire to close the curtains against what was likely a firecracker but could be imagined as a gunshot (stop laughing) with the need to let in the comforting sounds of boisterous Eastern European revelry (apparently they did not think it sounded like a gunshot), writing will do wonders. It might be a poem - which is how I calmed myself the night before my exam - or an essay contemplating the decision to ink or not to ink. I might not initially feel that I have much to say, or that saying it deserves precedence over the ever-expanding list of other things I "should" be doing. But if I can just let myself start, or get myself to start, it will carry me through every time.